Wednesday, August 1, 2012
Dear Birth Parents
Dear Birth Parents,
It is hard to understand what it would be like to place a child for adoption. We are sure that you have experienced much heartache and tears in coming to this decision. A very important Church leader stated, “Perhaps we better understand that Christ would suffer for us because our mothers did the same to enable our lives.” We know that you must have had many difficulties and suffering during this time. We admire your strength and unselfishness in overcoming these trials to enable your child to have a greater support system and better opportunities. We hope that we can be the parents that you wish for your child to have. We want you to know that whomever you choose, you’ll have made the
right choice.
We have always felt that adoption would be part of our future, since it has been a part of our past. Mila and her three siblings were adopted. Her oldest brother married a girl who was also adopted and together they have adopted two children, our darling nephews.
We have often reflected on the decision Mila’s birth parents had to make. We know that in Mila’s case it has been an immeasurable blessing. In a letter to Mila from her birth mother it stated, “I knew you would be much happier with two parents that could support you and give you a good happy home. I could have never given you these things. And I wanted to, so that is why I put you up for adoption, so that you would be happy.” Mila is lucky enough to not only know the love of Heavenly Father and her parents, but also that of her birth parents. She is so grateful to her birthparents for their choice. We believe that we knew before we came to earth the family to which we would come. Mila knows that she is supposed to be with her adoptive family and has been very happy.
Here is little information about us. We met in college in a Physical Education class. When we met we found out Dave had been on the same Christian mission to Argentina with Mila’s brother. I guess it was meant to be. Dave waited until the last day of class to ask Mila out on a date. We dated for about nine months before we were married. We have been married now for 10 years. We go on a date every week, even if that means just renting a movie and cuddling. We are very active members in our church.
We have a beautiful little girl, named June, who is eight years old. She is a wonderful older sister. Because of her sweet personality and tender ability with children, she is a great helper to our whole family. We love seeing her grow and discovering her natural gifts and talents. June loves to do art projects, enjoys dance lessons and loves to be dramatic. She brings us several pictures every day. Even though she is in the third grade, she is at a fifth grade reading level. Her favorite things to read are mystery and adventure books. Having June has blessed our lives.
Our son, Julian is two years old. He is an active little boy. It amazes us how tough and resilient he is. He is very curious, so he loves finding out what things are and how they work. Julian is so sweet. He loves playing outside, watching Toy Story, and reading. He started pre-school and music class this summer and enjoys being with his friends. Julian has a playgroup that meets every week. He is all boy and loves climbing, looking at bugs and playing with balls. He loves babies and is very soft with them. Julian is attached to his sister and wants to do everything she does. They have a fun time playing together despite their age difference. Julian is a blessing to everyone.
Dave is witty and artistically creative. His artwork and photography is framed and hanging in our home. Dave received a Bachelor of Fine Arts in Oregon. He is an imaginative graphic designer and has worked professionally now for four years in this capacity. Dave loves to run and has competed in several long distance races. He also likes art, history and audio books. Dave is an amazing and thoughtful husband. He makes me laugh and helps me through the hard days. Dave goes above and beyond his call of duty in sharing the homemaking responsibilities. He inspires me to be a better person. Dave is also a wonderful father. He always finds time to play with June and Julian and helps them to learn. Every other month he takes June on a date. They also like to go on walks together and have special talks every week. June has so much fun with her dad. Julian is also a Daddy’s boy. He loves wrestling and playing with Daddy. It is so precious to see Julian run to the door when he hears the garage open. We are so fortunate to have Dave leading our family.
Mila is extremely good with children and loves to be with them. She finds a way to bond with even the most difficult of children. Mila is constantly studying about child development and how it relates to her children. Completing her degree in Child Development is among her goals. Mila is a talented singer. She also has a lot of fun card making, reading, vacationing, painting her nails and hanging out with friends and family. Mila is great at research and enjoys serving her family. Mila is also extremely dedicated, generous and supportive. It is a blessing to have her running our home.
As a family we love swimming, vacations, going on walks, playing games and watching movies together. We also like to go hiking, bowling and play in splash parks. We all enjoy each other’s company. Music is a big part of our lives. We love to have dance parties and sing in our home. Our neighborhood has many fun activities. We have several parks and schools within walking distance. In front of our house we have a big grass area, where all the kids play, as the parents mingle and watch them. There are a lot of young children in our neighborhood. We also have access to a neighborhood pool and a gym. At night, we read scriptures, sing songs and say prayers before bed.
We all try to eat very healthy and exercise almost daily. Dave is 33 years old, 5’8 with brown hair and hazel eyes. Mila just turned 30, and is 5’ 3 with dark brown hair and brown eyes. Both June and Julian have brown eyes and light brown hair. Dave is Caucasian and Mila is part Caucasian, part Spanish and part Ecuadorian Indian. Regarding our background, Dave’s family roots are Eastern European. Mila’s adoptive family roots are from England, Spain and Italy.
We live within thirty minutes of both our parents and siblings. We see them frequently, with monthly dinners, birthday parties and holidays. The grandparents love to be with their grandchildren, babysit and are very involved in our children’s lives. They play with the kids, take them to the park, the zoo and the bouncy house. They also attend their school programs, doctor appointments and June’s dance recitals. We also have many friends. We like to have dinners, parties, and game nights. Our friends and family are very happy and supportive that we are adding to our family.
Our goal is to raise children in love and righteousness and to help them have a happy and successful life. Another one of our parenting goals is that we want our children to always know that they can come to us for any reason. We try to make our home a peaceful place where we can feel sweet promptings. Our life is centered in the teachings of Jesus Christ. We attend church regularly and have a family night every week. We really do have a loving home and we strive to let our children know we love them every chance we get. There is a song called “Love Never Fails” that we like. It says,
Love will sustain
Love will provide
Love will not cease
At the end of time
Love will protect
Love always hopes
Love is the arms that are holding you
Love never fails you
When my heart won’t make a sound
When I can’t turn back around
When the sky is falling down
Nothing is greater than this
Greater than this
Love is right here
Love is the arms that are holding you
Love never fails you
This song describes the kind of love we try to provide our family. We will always tell your child how much you loved them and when we hold them, they will know they are loved. We will tell them that you made the decision that you felt was best for them. We are certainly not perfect, but we work very hard to be our best. You can trust that we will take good care of your baby. We know that families are meant to be together forever. We have felt for a while that we are missing one more member of our family and that that baby must come from adoption.
We are excited for the possibility that your child is meant to be a part of our family. We will forever be thankful for the choice that you have made. We hope that you can personally reach all of your goals. Heavenly Father loves all of us unconditionally. He will always be there for us no matter what. We are in constant prayer that Heavenly Father will watch over you, as you go through this process and throughout your life.
Sincerely,
Dave, Mila, June and Julian
If you want to contact us email us at missingjustone@ymail.com
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